As you all know, I’m a sucker for a good adventure. I rescued a dog, Tucker, in December and I’ve been so fortunate that he’s up for anything. He loves jumping in the car and exploring new places! We’ve gone camping several times, to Lake Havasu and to the Grand Canyon. I’m thinking our next adventure should be to the ocean. Where should we go?
My 30th birthday has come and gone without any sort of major breakdowns or newfound grey hairs. I had a wonderful party at a local park with all of my friends, some family and an EPIC bouncy house! I couldn’t have asked for a better way to spend the last night of my 20s – in bed by 10 pm!
One thing that has been on my mind for several months is my 30 by 30 list. I created this list many years ago – I think I was 26/27 at the time – with the hopes of accomplishing a lot of the things and experiences that I found exciting at the time. However, as time went on a lot of those goals changed. I realized how important family is, how much I value my sleep, and how much I love day trips with my puppy. The items like skydiving, surfing and partying at Mardi Gras, while they would still be fun (and I still want to do at some point), are no longer a priority.
A friend and I were talking today about how we were both fast asleep by 8:30 pm last night. It’s slightly embarrassing, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. It allowed me to get up earlier this morning, take a walk with Tucker, make a healthy breakfast and gear up for my busy, adult day!
I do, however, find it hilarious to point out the differences in how we spend our time in our 30s vs how we chose to live our lives in our 20s. And I recently found a Twitter account that loves this as much as I do: @20vs30. Below are some of the gems from their feed.
— Kelly Reynolds (@ReynoldsReport) July 22, 2014
It’s sad when the first thing I look for in a guy is a wedding ring. #30s
— 20vs30 (@20vs30) July 3, 2014
At what point did throwing a party start involving dinner? #30s
— 20vs30 (@20vs30) June 27, 2014
I’ve recently come across this inspiring story of a young woman who dances. She’s a big girl and has battled her weight for a long time. She recently decided she’s taking a stand against body shaming -no matter your shape or size – and posted videos of her dancing on YouTube. She’s a great dancer – she’s got rhythm and her passion really shows through.
Take a few minutes and cyber stalk the crap out of her like I did yesterday. It’s really worth a few minutes of your time and it’s a great message.
It seems that a constant struggle for many people is the balance between expectations and reality. What does your boss expect from you? Parents? Significant other? Children? And most importantly – yourself?
Balance that with what you’re actually able to do. There are only 24 hours in a day and only so much brain power to devote to any given task.
I’ve realized my struggle is between my internal expectation of greatness with the external limitations of time and resources (read: money). Who’s with me? Who hasn’t struggled with this at one point or another?
A big expectation vs. reality battle comes with my 30 by 30 list.
“I am officially almost 30.” That’s what I tell anyone who asks me how old I am. I’ll be 30 in June and I’m faced with the fact that not only haven’t I accomplished as much as I had hoped off my list, but also in life. When I was 13, 30 was OLD! I was convinced that I would be married with 2.5 kids, a dog and white picket fence.
That’s far from reality, minus the dog. But, turns out, I’m happier than ever. I’m living my life to the fullest. I am surrounded with family, friends, places and experiences that fulfill me.
So why does it feel like I’m still falling short? This is where the external pressures come in. Everywhere I go, people ask me who I’m seeing or when I’m going to settle down. Guess what? I don’t know and I don’t want to know.
I’m living in the now, and that’s good enough for me.
Until then, I’m continuing to cross things off my 30 by 30 list and will continue to add to and adapt the list as I see fit! So what if I haven’t hiked to the floor of the Grand Canyon? In fact, I’ve only ever went on one hike in my life and only made it a mile. Who cares that I haven’t really learned how to cook? I don’t want to spend my time learning something that really doesn’t interest me!
Stay tuned for some photos of things that have recently inspired me and my happiness.
So it’s not Wednesday, but I found a really good article and, to be honest, come tomorrow I’ll forget to post it. Here’s what I’m reading today:
How to Get Everything You Want via Inc.
This is a great article about not only getting what you want, but it also notes that if you put others first, you are able to be happier and get ahead in life.
Here are my favorite parts of “How to Get Everything You want”:
Listen First and Never Stop Listening
Help Others: When you want something from someone, instead of asking for it, help that person get what he or she wants.
Be Yourself: Authentic, Transparent, and Vulnerable: This is my favorite point made by the author. Oprah Winfrey stated, “I had no idea that being your authentic self could make me as rich as I’ve become. If I had, I’d have done it a lot earlier.”
Tell, Don’t Sell: Whether it’s a product, service, idea, or yourself that you’re trying to sell–give up on “selling.” Instead, focus on telling a great story–captivating your audience, bringing to life what the future will bring, and painting a great picture of what will happen if you get what you want.
Inject Passion Into Every Interaction: If you’re not passionate about what you’re talking about, why should someone else care?
Surprise and Delight Others: You know how when you walk into a casino, there’s always a slot machine going off somewhere in the background, telling the world that another person just hit a jackpot? This is what social psychologists call variable rewards. You don’t know when you’re going to win; you just have enough positive experiences that you feel excited, even when you’re not winning. When you surprise and delight others, not only do you make them happy–you remind them that you’re the type of person who might surprise and delight them soon again.
Use The Four Most Important Words in Business and Life: Say “I’m sorry” when you make a mistake and “thank you” as much as you can … I send three hand-written thank you cards every morning. I send them to staff, customers, vendors, the media, and friends, and not only do I find people love receiving cards, but writing “thank you” puts me in an incredible mindset to start my day. This is not just about sending cards, though. It’s about having a deep appreciation for and wonder about the people and world around you.
I have been reading a lot of stories on CNN (and other places) about people who have lost massive amounts of weight. In their “after” stories, they talk about how they were miserable and could barely walk or have fun “before” their life chance. Now, they’re lively and energetic and can’t believe how good life is with the weight off.
It got me thinking … how do you know when your “before” story ends and your “after” story begins?
I’m turning 29 this week so I figured this would be a good time for a 30 by 30 update. It’s sad, but I put the list on the back burner for a while. I got caught up in life, like most of us do from time to time and lost track of my goals. I was in a relationship where I lost a lot of myself, but at the same time learned so much and grew up in the process.
I’m a firm believer that everything we experience teaches us a lesson and I have learned many of them in the last few years.
Recently, I took a long, hard look at my 30 by 30 list and realized that many of my dreams and goals have changed. For instance, I don’t want to live in a downtown area anymore. But, I recently moved to Gilbert, Arizona, which is exactly where I want to be. It’s close to where I play softball, it’s where all of my friends are and it’s where I’m happy.
I’ve also realized that I have some of the same goals, and those have taken a backseat for the last couple of years. Because I was so wrapped up with someone else, I put myself and my health and fitness on the back burner.
So, I’ve updated the list and I’m aiming for my 29th year to be the year where I take care of me. I’m the number one priority in my life. 29 is going to be my best year!
In the meantime, I want to hear more from my readers. I know you’re out there – I see my daily blog stats! So comment below with your name, how old your are, what you do, and why you stopped by!